क्यों गुमसुम हो ?

Hello friends this is me Jagriti Srivastava
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क्यों गुमसुम हो ?
नाराजगी हमसे है या खफा खुद से हो
दूर हमसे हो या जुदा खुद से हो
इन बेचैन सी आंखों मे तुम क्या छुपाए बैठे हो
नजरें मिलानी हैं हमे और तुम आंखें झुकाए बैठे हो
ताल्लुक बनाना है तुमसे और तुम फासलेें बढ़ा रहे हो
खोना है हमको तुममें और तुम इस भीड़ में खोये जा रहे हो
क्यों सजा दे रहे हो इस कदर अपने आप को
कब तक छुपा सकते हो दिल में दबी इस बात को
हो अजनबी अगर तुम, क्यों याद आ रहे हो
दस्तूर इस जमाने का कैसे निभा रहे हो
करते दुआ यही है कि चैन तुमको आए
खुदा की मर्जीयो को तुम कभी जो समझ पाए
ना रूठना तुम हमसे ना खफा खुद से होना
चेहरे की मुस्कुराहट बरकरार ऐसे रखना
जीवन भर तुम दिल में बस प्यार ऐसे रखना  |

                                       Jagriti Srivastava

मैं दूर जाकर भी......

मेरी कविताओं की सबसे बड़ी खूबी यह है कि ये मेरे साथ हर दम रहतीे हैं, चाहे मैं दुखी हूं चाहे खुश
मेरी कविताएं मेरा साथ कभी नहीं छोड़ती
ये मुझे कभी अकेला नहीं करती
मैं कविताएं तभी लिखती हूं जब या तो मैं बहुत खुश होती हूं या जब मैं बहुत दुखी होती हूं |
कविताओं के बिना मैं अपनी जिंदगी की कल्पना नहीं कर सकती मैं इनके बिना अधूरी हूं |

मैं दूर जाकर भी हमेशा पास रहूंगी
लफ्जों में जो ना कहीं जाए
                                 वो अनकहा अल्फाज रहूंगी
वह जो चाहकर भी ना भुलाई जाए
                             मैं हर पल आने वाली वो याद रहूंगी
मैं जो बेचैन दिल को थोड़ी राहत दे जाए
                                      ऐसा कोई एहसास रहूंगी
  मैं और कोई नहीं,
                    लबों की मुस्कुराहट बनकर हरदम साथ रहूंगी
प्यासे मन को जो तर कर जाए
                                मैं बूंद बूंद बरसी वह बरसात रहूंगी
जिसका जिक्र हर धुन में हो
                            संगीत की एक ऐसी साज रहूंगी
मैं आंखों के सामने ना होते हुए भी
                                       दुआओं में आबाद रहूंगी
हां बेशक बन जाऊं मैं सितारा आसमान का पर
मुश्किल वक्त में हाथ पकड़कर चलने वाला हमराज रहूंगी
                                      Jagriti Srivastava

The one in many

The one in many.
                        The one Who stays with you, The one who believes in you, The one who is by your side now and forever,  The one who inspires you, The one who gives you freedom to do what you want, The one who never judge you,the one who is protective but also not make you dependable upon them. they set you free but also knows when to control you. 
The one who has solution of your every problem and the one because of whom you believe that there is a God.
A day without seeing them is a day that never completes.
Only their presence is enough to makes you strong.
Well we have so many other people in our life but nobody can take the place of that one person.
It is necessary to have that one person in your life.
That could be anyone, someone from your family or friends or your life partner, anyone !!

I am so lucky because I have the one and he is none other than my Big brother.
He is just amazing.
Words are less to describe about him.
I can say he is my super hero.
Whenever I have some problem all I want is him to be with me. 
I feel safe when he is around.
He is ray of hope in my life
He has such a positive vibes that anyone automatically feel relaxed and happy
It's not only me but my whole family feels that if he is with us everything will be alright.
We believe that he will going to save us from everything that comes.
He has some Superpower I think.
He always knows when I am sad.
literally he can read my face.
I can't hide anything from him.
People who know me knows that I am very close to my brother because it's very easy to explain him anything.
He always try to understand me without putting unnecessary questions.
His love and support is what give me the strength to do beyond my capabilities.
I think that's why when he is sad It Breaks my confidence level.I can see anything but not the sad face of my brother. I always wanted to see him cheerful and positive.
I daily thank god for giving me the best brother.
May be I can write a book about his importance in my life. still I am sure what i want to say may not be complete.

I am sure you all have someone like this or may be you are like this for someone. May be you are playing this role in someone's life.

I have written this blog just to tell you all that if you have someone like this you are blessed my friend
you have everything you need in life. never let them go if you have the one and in case if you don't have than be the sunshine in someone's life
you definitely feel great.

And don't forget to commenting below and let me know do you have someone like this or are you like this for someone ??

Like always ending my blog with few lines of poetry.
These Hindi lines are not related with this blog topic but have written it recently and thought to post it here .
I hope you all like it.

तुम मिसाल बन तू मशाल बन,
                            तू कद से अपने विशाल बन
तू सशक्त बन अभ्यस्त बन,
                           आकाश बन पाताल बन
 तू ढाल बन तलवार बन,
                             तू सूर्य बन गगन भी बन
तू खेत बन किसान बन,
                          सरहद भी बन तू जवान बन
तू गीता बन कुरान बन
                          तू विश्व बन ब्रह्मांड बन
समाया है ये जग तुझ में ही,
                   यहां कड़-कड़ कि तू जान बन            
पर सबसे पहले हो सके तो एक अच्छा इंसान बन

                           Jagriti Srivastava

लफ्ज हमारे

बेवजह रूठे लोग अब मनाए जाते नहीं
कि बेमतलब के कुछ रिश्ते अब हम से निभाए जाते नहीं
मेरा साथ गर पसंद ना हो तो कह देना
कि ऐसे झूठे रिश्ते हम ज्यादा देर दिल मे बसाते नहीं
जोड़ लेते हैं आसानी से खुद को किसी से
सच्चाई पर टिके किसी रिश्ते को हम कभी ठुकराते नहीं
ताउम्र निभा सकते हैं हर रिश्ता हम,  पर जिसे अहमियत ना हो इसकी, 
ऐसे लोगों को हम गले से लगाते नहीं
बे फिजूल शब्दों को खर्च करने की आदत नहीं हमारी. इसीलिए अपना हाल-ए-दिल हर किसी को सुनाते नहीं
कोशिश करते हैं रख सके खुश सभी को हम पर
हमें ना समझने वालों को फिर हम समझाते नहीं

                                    Jagriti Srivastava

आखिर कैसे

दिल की इस कशमकश को सुलझाएं कैसे
जो हमें मिल नहीं सकता उसे भूल जाए कैसे
कि कितनी शिद्दत से आरजू थी उसे पाने की
इतने लंबे सफर के बाद उसे रास्ते में छोड़ जाए कैसे
दोषी हम हैं या समय ने बना दिया है
इस सच्चाई को हम किसी को बतलाएं कैसे
कि सब समझते हैं गुनहगार हमें अब
कि हर किसी को अपना हाल-ए-दिल सुनाएं कैसे
ना चाहते हुए उठाए थे जो कदम
उन कदमों को पीछे अब हटाये कैसे
कि ख्वाहिश नहीं है मरने की पर
इस तरह से हम जिये जाए कैसे
परवाह नहीं लोग पसंद करते हैं या नहीं
पर जो हमें पसंद है उसे पसंद आए कैसे
                             Jagriti Srivastava

"HE" is Important

Undoubtedly this world is incomplete without women but we can't neglect the importance of a man.
He plays so many roles, Sometimes A Caring Father, Protective Brother, Loving Husband, Adorable Lover , Supporting Friend, Encouraging Colleagues, Brave Soldiers, Inspiring Idol and much more And the way he plays every part of his role is commendable.
Both women and men have the same importance in life.
They are incomplete without each other.
Today's everybody is talking about women empowerment, Yes, it is important but not to forget the contribution of Men in our life.
If you see tittle of this blog,  The 'He' there, its dedicated to them who are so supportive and loving.
For all the he's who do a lot for us without telling us, To all the He's for being piller of strength.
She and He completes each other. So if she is important then he is equally important.
God has been really kind that all the He's of my Life are just amazing.
I'm so proud of them.

So this is for all the He's who are the best in a way they are....

In my life I have my supporting father,
My world best brother. He is someone who understands me like no one. 
By the grace of god I have two sweet nephews, who completes my life.
And How can I forget my male friends. They always ready to help me and last but not the least A man whom I adore
  "Suresh Raina".

They all made my life so beautiful.
I want to thank them for being in my life.

Try not to become a man of success, try to become a man of value. Einstein said that. I think that’s true and important. If you fill your days with doing something that pays the bills but is essentially meaningless you are wasting your precious life. Yes, even if it pays the bills so handsomely that you can spend 2 months per year on adventurous holidays and eat in fancy restaurants, you are still wasting your life.  A real man has the balls to travel outside his comfort zone to make a sincere attempt to contribute to mankind. He works for the greater good instead of for the sake of protection of his self image and clinging to the illusion of safety.

I wanna clear it that this blog is not for them who are cheater, fraud, not for them who only know to use people, who disrespect womens and their dignity, Not for the them who think womens are inferior than them and made only for household works and defenatly not for them who are afraid of taking responsibility.

This blog is for real men, the man who  treat everyone equally, who don't tell lie just to impress someone.
who support women in every situation, the men who can feel the pain of others, the man who isn't afraid to do what is right, no matter what.

A real man is not in denial of his fears, holding up a mask of invulnerability but is willing to face his fears and work on them. He has the courage to do things that frighten him when the situation calls for it.
A real man knows that the path towards fearlessness is endless.
A real man doesn't need to be able to fight or to protect himself and his family physically. But He does however need to be willing to do whatever it takes to keep his family safe and happy.
Honesty is a great quality every single person should have but it’s often not that easy to find. A real honest man will tell you the truth and not just what you want to hear. An honest man will not use sleazy stories to get away from things or to look good, but he will tell you what he will do and how he feels about  something. It’s true that brutal honesty can be offensive sometimes but it’s better to have a guy that tells you the truth than one that fills you with lies.
A real man is devoted to the development of body, mind and spirit.
Men with integrity are highly respected and in return they give respect to others.
In today's deteriorating society, when I see that there are still some good people it's makes me feel so happy and safe.
I personally believe that if all men were gentlemen, we would live in a better world. Today, things are not like that, making the guys that have this quality stand out. Also, great guys never cross the line of being inappropriate.
It's my humble request to all real men out there that please never leave your goodness no matter what and also try to make your next generation just like you.
Because of all the Real He's, our society is progressing today.

Never change your originality for the sake of others because no one can play your role better than yourself.
So Be You
You Are The Best..

है नर वही जो सही दिशा में हरदम है चला
जिसके बस नाम मात्र से ही डर भी देखो है डरा
 निर्भय हो वह और धीर हो, वह शूरवीर गंभीर हो
सच्चा हो वह निष्ठुर नहीं, कर्तव्य पथ से विमुख नहीं
जो सैनिक भी हो, प्रेमी भी हो
                                सेवक भी हो, स्वामी भी हो
ऐसा पुरुष अतुलनीय है
                           जो मूर्ख भी हो, ज्ञानी भी हो |

                              Jagriti Srivastava

काश मैं बेजान होती

काश मैं भी बेजान होती
                     कि काश मुझ में भी ना कोई जान होती
ना होता मुझे किसी दर्द का एहसास
                               कि काश मैं भी बेजुबान होती
कि अब थक चुकी हूं मैं उल्फत से, उलझन से इस जिंदगी की
सोचती हूं काश कि मैं भी ना एक इंसान होती
ना सीने में दिल धड़कता मेरा
                                    ना ही सांसे चल रही होती
कि काश मैं भी लावारिस सा पड़ा कोई एक समान होती
जिस कदर गमों ने घेरा है
                                 हर वक्त दुखों का डेरा है
अच्छा होता कि ना मेरी कोई पहचान होती,
             काश कि मैं भी बेजान होती
जिस तरह सपनों में होती है
                 कि काश जिंदगी वैसी ही वरदान होती
हम चाहते जैसा, होता वैसा ही
           कि काश जिंदगी ना इतनी बेईमान होती
शौक से रहते हम भी नवाबों की तरह
काश जिंदगी इतनी आसान होती है
                      या काश कि मैं ही बेजान होती

                                       Jagriti Srivastava

Are We Fine?

Yesterday night I was talking with my friend and after gossiping for an hour I  ask her if she is fine or not,  I don't know why I asked this but after listening to my question she went quiet for a few minutes and then started crying.

I was in shock that what suddenly happened to her and then she started telling all the problems of her life to me.
I never thought that she also has problems in her life,  I mean she always acts like a free bird.

By seeing that big smile on her face nobody could ever understand that what's the kind of situation she is suffering from.

At that time I believed that it's not only me but there are so many other people who also hide their pain behind their beautiful smile.
         but,
Do we ever wonder that why we hide our pain from each other?
We all have some problems in life.
There is nothing shameful in it.
If we do not share our pain with each other then what's the meaning of having relations in life.

Yes, I know it's not right to show your emotion to everyone,
but Hiding your pain is also not a good thing.
When you share your problems with others, you feel relieved. Venting out will make your heart feel lighter and your mind will shed its burden.
A congested heart and troubled mind add to your problems. Let others help you to heal your heart and mind.
You don’t have to solve every problem on your own and sometimes it feels better to have someone by your side, even if it is just for emotional support.
If you just ask you may find that people will often be willing to help you out.
However, we aren't at our best all the time. We're emotional creatures who get swayed by the ups and downs of emotions, and affected by the upheavals of life.

We aren't always able to think sensibly or make sense out of the chaos in our life.
You don't have to be positive all the time. It's perfectly OK to feel sad, angry,  annoyed, frustrated, scared, anxious.

Having feelings doesn't make you a 'negative person'. It makes you human.
And Crying is not bad, in fact it's necessary to cry when you are not feeling good.

Why do we consider crying as a weakness ?
I don't understand this that who made this assumption that boys don't cry and girls cry so much
There are things that are universally  human and that should be treated as such. But, our society likes to put things in boxes and categorize them in such a way that we often forget what is basic to being a person. Crying is a big one that people tend to hear and immediately put in a gender box or associate with an adjective…
So we need to understand that either it's a girl or a boy there is nothing wrong in crying.
We have feelings. It's not possible to ignore your feelings everytime.
Don't try to act Emotionless because you can't.
We are human and we have heart that is full of emotion.
Pretending everything is ok when it isn’t doesn’t solve your problems, so if you feel the need and want to cry – go for it. You’ll feel better after it otherwise your feelings will fester inside.

And when it comes to problems, problems are there to teach us something good about life.
God has made us capable enough so that we can face every situation in our life.
I have found that there is almost always a positive side to a problem. Perhaps it alerts us of a great way to improve our business or relationships. Or teaches us how our lives perhaps aren’t as bad as we thought.

Finding this more positive part of the problem reduces its negative emotional impact. You may even start to see the situation as a great opportunity for you.
If life is battlefield, then we are brave soldiers of this battle.
Sooner or later, problems of our life will be solved one day.
In fact Every problems comes with solutions. 
We only need to change your perspective to see those problems.
When you are faced with a problem ask yourself:

What is the good thing about this?
What can I learn from this?
What hidden opportunity can I find within this problem?

Our perspective gets distorted and the insights get weakened sometimes.
But know that this is a temporary phase and you'll get over it.
When you've a problem,  don't ignore it but deal with it.

Hard times don't create heroes. It is during the hard times the 'Hero' within us is revealed.   Bob Riley

My Poem :-

जब मैं कुछ चेहरों को बड़े ध्यान से देखती हूँ
आंखों के आंसू को छुपाती हुई उस मुस्कान को देखती हूँ
मैं तब खुद से सिर्फ एक ही सवाल करती हूँ
हर उस शख्स का फिर मेै ख्याल करती हूं
जो मेरे "कैसे हो?"  पूछने पर
         "ठीक हूं"   कह जाता है
अपनी इस बात के पीछे न जाने वो
                   अपने कितने गमों को छुपाता है
ना जाने कितनी बातें उसके दिल में दबी होती है
                 जिसे वो किसी से ना कह पाता है
अपने गमों का बोझ उठा कर
                     अकेले में वो चुपचाप रोए जाता है
हम सब कुछ ऐसे ही तो है शायद ,
अकेले में रो कर सबके सामने मुस्कुराने का
                                          नाटक हमें आता है
बेफिजूल की हजार बातें कर लेंगे
             पर दिल का दर्द बयां हमसे ना हो पाता है
और मैं कहती हूं कि बुरा क्या है इसमें
अगर मन में कुछ भरा है तो साफ कर लो
किसी से माफी मांग लो और किसी को माफ कर लो
जब सुख से घबराते नहीं तो दुख से घबराना कैसा
                 उसे भी खुलकर स्वीकार कर लो
दो पल की जिंदगी में प्यार पाओ
                   और मिलकर सभी से प्यार कर लो |

                                 Jagriti Srivastava

Avoid Hypocrite

We all are surrounded by so many peoples in our life.
Some people are attached to us with heart and some others just pretend
But the most difficult task is to recognise them.
People are wearing a mask and hiding
their real face behind it .
I have no idea what they get from it
What I observe is that Nowadays people are following a new trend,
   Trend of having double personality or you can say double face !!
Number of these double standard people is increasing day by day.
People wear a mask of lie,
So they can look attractive.
      Be careful.
they are almost everywhere...
Sometimes we wonder how fast people change but actually they don't change they reveal who they really are !!

People praise you on your face but never miss any chance to humiliate you on others face. People will stab you in your back and then ask why you are bleeding....
I think they love talking about you behind your back more than saying your mistakes in front of you.
What kind of mind they have 🙄
Simple thing man if you have any problem with me,  say it to me, not to others.
I'm gonna correct myself, no one else can and also nobody is interested to correct my mistakes, all are only interested to make fun of mine. So if you think that you are my wellwisher then next  time please come to me when you have any issue regarding me. 
"Warning you   Stay loyal or stay away from me."
I really like those people who tells the truth to me, no matter how much hard it is.
I feel Real people are the best because you don't need to think twice before saying anything to them because if you are right they will agree with you and if you are wrong, they will correct you immediately.
They not gonna talk shits behind your back .
It costs nothing to appreciate good things you see in someone.
Yes,  there is nothing wrong in praising but false praise is not good at all.
If you really like something about someone do not forget to appreciate them but never praise anyone when they are wrong.
By false praising you encourage that person to do the bad things again and again .

We all have a habit of gossiping about others and creating false rumours,
without thinking that what will happen if someone do the same with us, What do we feel?
Have you ever tried to know that how rumours affect that person and the family?
If you can't be the reason of someone's happiness please do not be the reason of their sadness.
If someone trusted you and tells their secrets to you, don't break their trust by revelling it on others face.
you'll get nothing but lose your importance in that person's eyes.
I Wish people are the same from heart as they pretend to be from face.
Be careful whom you trust. If someone will discuss others with you. They will surely discuss you with others.

And tell me one thing that What's the whole point of being pretty on the outside when you're so ugly on inside ?
It's not about the people who act true to your face. It's about the people who remain true behind your back.
It's better to have enemy who honestly says they hate you!!
Than to have a friend whose putting you down secretly.
One fake can do more damage than five enemies.
Choose your circle wisely. Not everyone deserves your trust.
Avoid Hypocrite in life.
The things in all of us is that we are so quick to judge but slow to correct ourselves.
I am very cautions of people whose actions don't match their words.
Stay away from these kind of people in your life and never try to be like them.

"Never design your character like a garden where anyone can walk.
Design your character like the sky where everyone desire to reach."

Want to mention few lines kabir Das ji has said -:
बुरा जो देखन मैं चला, बुरा न मिलिया कोय,
जो दिल खोजा आपना, मुझसे बुरा न कोय।

अर्थ: जब मैं इस संसार में बुराई खोजने चला तो मुझे कोई बुरा न मिला। जब मैंने अपने मन में झाँक कर देखा तो पाया कि मुझसे बुरा कोई नहीं है।

AND IN THE LAST A PEOM WRITTEN BY ME:-

कुछ लोग भरोसे के लायक नहीं होते
जिन पर भरोसा करके हम बाद में है रोते
ये वो है जो रंग, पल-पल में अपना बदल लेते हैं  
जिनसे खाकर ठोकर बाद में हम भी संभल लेते हैं
बुरी हरकतों से समाज में कई लोग परेशान होते हैं
  कई नादान चेहरे भी बड़े बेईमान होते हैं
ऊपर से सच की मूरत और अंदर से शैतान होते हैं
मिशरी सी मीठी बातें बोलकर पीठ पीछे खंजर चुभोतेे हैं
ये लोग दूर के नहीं बल्कि कुछ अपने ही होते हैं

                          JAGRITI SRIVASTAVA

जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे

As I have completed my graduation this year and may be so many of you too.
We Experienced lot of new things in college and enjoy it also but the thing is that nothing gonna take the place of our school days. The time we spend in our school is something that is very close to our heart.
Yes it's true that we all miss our school time, We all miss our childhood days.
That carefree life, that fun and enjoyment we had at that time is something really special for everyone. Sad that it never come back again but it always remain special in our life. All we have is memories which stay with us for lifetime.
Here I just tried to put my experiences into words, I hope you all like it.
So without wasting our valuable time let's start ......

एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
ढेर सारी शैतानियाँ हर रोज class में कर आते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
लंच से पहले ही एक दूसरे का टिफिन मजे से खाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
हर शाम school ड्रेस को गंदा करके घर आते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
अपनी सीट पर सिर्फ अपने बेस्ट फ्रेंड को ही बैठाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
टीचर के चले जाने के बाद क्लास में शोर बहुत मचाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
अपने crush का नाम तब सबसे छुपाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
Maths की क्लास हर रोज miss कर जाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
यूं तो स्कूल ना जाने के हजारों बहाने बनाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
छोटी मोटी तकरार के बाद मिलकर फिर से एक हो जाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
वो छुट्टी वाला इतवार बड़े मजे से मनाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
हर teacher को एक secret nickname से बुलाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
छुट्टी की उस Bell से ज्यादा शोर हम बच्चे मचाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
Punishment से बचने के नए तरीके रोज अपनाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
खेलकूद के साथ पढ़ाई में भी खूब मन लगाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
दोस्तों को उनकी मम्मी की डांट से भी बचाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
Back banch पर बैठकर मजे से नींद भी उड़ाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
शरारत में सबके बाप हम कहलाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
Late जाने पर सौ बहाने हम बनाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
अपनी हर कॉपी के पीछे फालतू सीDrawing हम बनाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
Home work करने में सबसे ज्यादा कतराते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
बारिश में खुद भीगकर अपनी books को बचाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
जादुई कहानियों को हकीकत मान जाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
हर लम्हा कितनी खुशी से जीये जाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
हजार झूठ बोलकर फिर भी सच्चे हम कहलाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
अपनी मासूमियत से सबका दिल जीत लाते थे
एक वक्त था जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
कितने अनोखे थे वे दिन जिनमें बेफिक्र हम खो जाते थे
दिन भर थक कर रात को चैन से सो जाते थे
वो पल सबसे अच्छे थे जब हम भी स्कूल जाते थे
                                 Jagriti Srivastava

Mental health

Health is the most important in everyone's life and we do lot of things to be healthy.
We are so much concern about our Physical health but often forget that being mentally healthy is equally important.
The World Health Organization defined health as a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.
So today I am gonna discuss about our mental health.
Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act.
It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. Mental health is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood.
Mental illness is more common than most people expect. Everyone can suffer from mental illness at any point of time in his life. A large survey in the UK found 1 in 6 people of working age suffer from a mental illness; mental illness is as common as asthma. Among those above 65 years old, one out of twenty suffers from dementia. Depression affects about 5% of men and 10% of women in developed countries. In 2000, the World Health Organization predicted that 20 years later, depression will become the second biggest burden of disease, second to ischemic heart disease.
The stigma and misunderstanding on mental illness in society discourage patients to seek help and receive treatment. Even if the patients have plucked up courage to seek treatment, they often conceal their illness from their family and peers.This made a general misconception that mental illnesses are rare. Therefore, when we understand that the fact that mental illnesses are common and treatable, we are more able to combat mental illnesses.
Over the course of your life, if you experience mental health problems, your thinking, mood, and behavior could be affected. Many factors contribute to mental health problems, including:
•Family history of mental health problems.
•Biological factors, such as genes or brain chemistry.
•Life experiences, such as trauma or abuse.
While there are over 200 classified forms of mental illness, the five (5) major categories of mental illness are:
1-Anxiety Disorders
2-Mood Disorders
3-Schizophrenia/Psychotic Disorders
4-Dementias
5-Eating Disorders
National Mental Health survey shows urban areas to be most affected
At least 13.7 per cent of India’s general population has various mental disorders; 10.6 per cent of them require immediate interventions.
Common mental disorders such as depression, anxiety and substance use are as high as 10 per cent in the total population.
Almost 1 in 20 suffer from depression; it is found to be higher in females in the age-group 40-49 years
22.4 per cent of the population above 18 years suffers from substance use disorder
The highest was contributed by tobacco and alcohol use disorder
Nearly 1.9 per cent of the population is affected by severe mental disorders
While nearly 10 per cent of the population has common mental disorders, 1.9 per cent of the population suffers from severe mental disorders.
Not sure if you or someone you know is living with mental health problems? Experiencing one or more of the following feelings or behaviors can be an early warning sign of a problem:
•Eating or sleeping too much or too little.
•Pulling away from people and usual activities.
•Having low or no energy.
•Feeling numb or like nothing matters.
•Having unexplained aches and pains.
•Feeling helpless or hopeless.
•Smoking, drinking, or using drugs more than usual.
•Feeling unusually confused, forgetful, on edge, angry, upset, worried, or scared.
•Yelling or fighting with family and friends.
•Experiencing severe mood swings that cause problems in relationships.
•Having persistent thoughts and memories you can't get out of your head.
•Hearing voices or believing things that are not true.
•Thinking of harming yourself or others.
•Inability to perform daily tasks and etc.
A mental illness can have an effect on every aspect of a person’s life, including thinking, feeling, mood, and outlook and such areas of external activity as family and marital life, work, recreation, and management of material affairs. Most mental disorders negatively affect how individuals feel about themselves and impair their capacity for participating in mutually rewarding relationships.
The attitude of many Indians towards this problem isn’t helping.
The stereotypes and stigma in India are all the more evident in the respondents’ attitudes towards those who are suffering from mental illnesses. Some 60% of those surveyed believed one of the main causes was a lack of self-discipline and willpower, and 60% agreed that those who suffer from them should have their own groups so as not to “contaminate” healthy people.
Interventions, focusing on raising awareness of mental health issues and mobilizing efforts in support of mental health, are necessary for addressing the situation.
There are ways that you can improve your mental health. First, try to recognize your condition and understand why you are in this situation . Sorting out the causes of sadness, stress, and anxiety in your life can help you manage your emotional health.
its all up to you that how you are leading your mind and how you are dealing with situations.
There are some ways you can use to avoid being mentally stressed:- like,
Try to connect as much as you can with others, Stay positive, Eat healthy, Do exercise, boost your,self esteem,
Be physically active, Try to help others, Get enough sleep, avoid overthinking and most importantly get professional help if you need it.
Many people diagnosed with mental illness achieve strength and recovery through participating in individual or group treatment. There are many different treatment options available. There is no treatment that works for everyone – individuals can chose the treatment, or combination of treatments, that works best.
Psychotherapy- Psychotherapy is the therapeutic treatment of mental illness provided by a trained mental health professional.  Psychotherapy explores thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and seeks to improve an individual’s well-being.  Psychotherapy paired with medication is the most effective way to promote recovery.  Examples include: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Exposure Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, etc.
Medication – Medication does not outright cure mental illness.  However, it may help with the management of symptoms.  Medication paired with psychotherapy is the most effective way to promote recovery.
Support Group – A support group is a group meeting where members guide each other towards the shared goal of recovery.  Support groups are often comprised of nonprofessionals, but peers that have suffered from similar experiences.
Complementary & Alternative Medicine – Complementary & Alternative Medicine, or CAM, refers to treatment and practices that are not typically associated with standard care.   CAM may be used in place of or addition to standard health practices.
Self Help Plan – A self-help plan is a unique health plan where an individual addresses his or her condition by implementing strategies that promote wellness.  Self-help plans may involve addressing wellness, recovery, triggers or warning signs.
Peer Support – Peer Support refers to receiving help from individuals who have suffered from similar experiences.

I just want to request to everyone that if you see someone suffering from mental disease, don't make fun of them, they only requires your little care and support.
it's not infectious disease so please help them as much as you can.
if you experience change Behaviour of people around you then go and talk with them and also if you go through something like this them it's time to check what's going wrong in life.
we all need to create an environment where all these kind of disease won't take place we need to create an environment where we all can live happily.
So this is all on this topic. I have tried my best.. though there are a lot of things you need to know about it which is easily available you on internet.
Thanks for support :)
Share this blog so people can understand how much mental health is important for them.
Take care, Stay healthy and Keep smiling
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बूंद बूंद से भरता सागर
                   हवा कहती है खिलखिलाकर
दिन होता नहीं है एक जैसा बदल देता उसे वक्त आकर
कीमत पहचानो समय की
                                   रखो बड़ों का मान
असली ताकत सच्चाई है करना मत तुम अभिमान
जीवन मिलता बड़ी मुश्किल से
                              ना हो पाए बेकार
भंडार है मानव ज्ञान का करलो इसको स्वीकार
वैज्ञानिकों की इस दुनिया को जरूरत क्या है प्रमाण की बस मनुष्य की सोच ही तो बाधा है नवनिर्माण की
अपनी बल और चतुराई से पूरा करना हर लक्ष्य
जीवन असली वही जो है तेरे समक्ष |
   
                                     Jagriti Srivastava

Value Of Relations

We are so scared even by the name of being alone. so think what will happen if we have to live our whole life without anyone, seems impossible na, So to solve this problem and to make our life enjoyable God made some beautiful relations. These Relations completes our life and people in our life give us more reason to enjoy every moment of our life.
And it is our responsibility to take care of our every relations.
We all need to value every relation we have in our life.
I've learned that it's not what I have but who I have in life that matters the most.
Making relation is not a difficult task, but keeping it forever is.
And there are only few people who know how to handle it correctly.
In your life there are some blood relations, some relations you made and some made by situations and trust me every relations are important in your life.
Many people comes in our life.
Some stays and some leaves, some comes for short period of time and some for long But each of them teaches us something about life. People are either lesson or a blessing for us.
Give importance to people and relations in your life because once if relations are broken and people are gone, they will never come back again, I repeat never.
You can't just give up on someone because the situation's not ideal. Great relations aren't great because they have no problems. The are great because both people care enough about the other person to find a way to make it work.
Please don't use anyone only for your some selfish benefit. People are made for loved not for used.
Trust is the most important key in every relation.
If you lost money you may earn it again but if you lost trust it's not possible to get it back. It takes a long time to build a trust but it break just in a second.
If someone cheats you don't give them second chance for the same mistake because if they cheat you once they can cheat you again and again.
we learn with the time like in childhood we want so much people around us but As we grow up the circle of our relations decreases in size but increases in value.
Self respect is important but Ego is not.
Ego comes and destroy the relations.
I appreciate this line I read somewhere
अपनी जिंदगी में कुछ रिश्तो को मैंने यूं बचा लिया किसी से माफी मांग ली और किसी को माफ कर दिया
Remember If someone believe on you blindly, please Don't prove them blind.
It is blessing to have people who can be with you not only in your ups but also when you are in down.
what I feel is if you don't trouble anyone god will never do bad with you.
Surround yourself with the kind of people who spread positivity and happiness not who creates negative environment.
True relationship is where you can talk freely with each other,Where you can share everything openly, where others happiness become reason for you to be happy.
We all share a strong bonding with our parents, family and friends and it's very important to tell them every time that how important they are in your life and make them feel special. You know life is unpredictable. Be thankful for each and every moment you lived with your loved ones.
It is also true that no one gonna live with us for all time. People leave us with memories and the sad thing is that we can't do anything about it but we have to make sure that how much time we spend with that people, we have to make it memorable for lifetime. Many time it happens in life when we feel something for someone but that person doesn't feel the same for you, its ok you don't need to force someone to feel the same you feel for them. let them go, if that thing is your it definitely comes to you.
So many people are there who are in love but not together and there are so many people who are together but not in love you can't beat the destiny. All you can do is accept the reality and move on And one concept that I never understand that how can people forget their parents and disrespect them when they got new people in their life??
we are nothing without our parents. They are our everything.parents are blessings love them always. Relationship between your brother and sister something you can't find anywhere else. it's pure.
we need a good life partner in our life that's also very true and your friends are Cherry on the cake and many more relations we have. we can't say we are complete without all these people. we must need them in our life.
Every relations go through misunderstandings and fights but it does not break the relation it make the relations even more stronger because your real Well wishes never wish anything bad for you. maybe they annoy you very much but believe me they can fight with whole world just to see the a smile on your face.
"जीवन में रिश्ते उस बगिया के फूल की तरह हैं जिन्हें हमे अपने प्यार के पानी से सींचना पड़ता है वरना रिश्तो के यह फूल मुरझा जाते हैं और हमारी बगिया सुनी और उदास हो जाती है"
Sometimes an Unexpected connections are made and that person which is so much far away from you can give you more peace and happiness than the person sitting just next to you.
it's all about understanding you know and about respecting each others, giving space to each other and about love, care, support,equality and many more things.
Nowadays there is a time of virtual world.
because of this you come to know so many people of different states from different culture. You have so many things to learn from them.
So many people don't like internet friendship, even my family too don't support it. They think it's not safe and yaa it's true but luckily I met some very amazing people here on internet and some of them become my close friends for life. It's a different kind of experience you know but that doesn't mean you trust blindly to anyone.
And something very strange now a days that fast replies, Blue ticks and status are  some of the criteria use to judge any relationship.
I know it's important to communicate and if you are a priority to someone then they definitely give you their time, no matter how much busy they are but it's not good to judge your relation according to these criteria and your relations are much more stronger than anything else.  understanding between two people are more important in any relations.
Now Relationship becomes harder because conversation become texting, arguments become phone calls and feelings becomes status update.
Don't try to find out perfection in everyone, accept the imperfect one.
I think two imperfect people make a perfect relation.
If I talk about myself, I am very insecure about my place in anyone's life, like I feel, Is I am also that much important for them like they are for me..
I am always curious to know if people think of me or I am forgotten.
I wonder how many stories I've been part of their.
I wonder how many times a day I pass through someone's head.
I attached with people very easily.
Once I was asked what will I do if my people leave me and I replied people who are mine will never leave me and people who leave me was never mine.
And here I take this opportunity to say thanks to each and everyone who are in my life :)
Value yourself enough to choose to be with someone who wants you as much as you want them.
"बेहिसाब रिश्तो का शौक मत रखो जीवन में रिश्ते उतने ही बनाओ जितने निभाने की औकात रखते हो"

And in last special part of my blog....
                 My poem
इन रिश्तो के बिना सब अधूरे होते हैं
कुछ खूबसूरत लोगों के साथ ही तो हम पूरे होते हैं
जीवन में जो भर देते हैं खुशियां हमारी
 कितने सारे बंधन हमारे दिल से जुड़े होते हैं
जिन के संग हम हंसते मुस्कुराते हैं
गीत खुशी के गाते और गमो मे आंसू बहाते हैं
ऐसे कुछ अनमोल लोग होते हैं जो हजारों में हमारे अपने कहलाते हैं
जिनके पास होने पर दुख का एहसास नहीं होता
जिनके दूर होने पर खुशी का आगाज नहीं होता
रिश्ते मिलते हैं हम सभी को किस्मत से
इन रिश्तो के अलावा हमें और किसी पर विश्वास नहीं होता |
                            Jagriti Srivastava

Grow up

Please Grow up !!
Well, Don't be confused I'm not going to give you any kind of health advise which helps you to grow Because that's not my work and also I am not interested in it.
I'm here just to tell you that Grow Up as a person. Be mature enough to see the difference between right and wrong.
Please come out of from your conservative thoughts. It's not necessary that what You think every time, is right.
You can't completely understand the situation of any person until it happens with you.
Think about yourself before judging someone.
Don't judge anyone according to your opinion and also don't let anyone else judge you.
How can we spoke bad things for people when we don't have guts to bear all that bitter words to ourself.
The problem with us is that we don't want to come out of from our blind faith.
We just don't want to see the other side of the coin.
We humans, Yes, we are social creature. sometimes unwillingly we are bind to follow some social customs. Its not bad but when it create wrong impact on us then it's totally worst.Social rules have been made to improve us not to spoil us.
Nobody has the right to take your freedom from You.
Everyone in the society has the right to live equally.
We all can keep cleaning around us. It is in our hands but How you can clean the garbage of someone's mind?
The filthy thinking of people has spoiled the society.
Respect everyone's feeling. It may means nothing to you but for them it means so much.
You know the real problem is that no one wants to change themselves, Everyone is trying to change others.
Mahatma Gandhi said that Be the change you wish to see in the world.
we should have to live our life according to our own opinion, not to others.
if there is fault in anyone's thinking then why we have to face problems because of them?
come out from the race to prove yourself right and others wrong.
Support each other and this the way we really can grow up.
We all are part of this society and if we do not support each other then who will support us.
The most important day in your life is the day when you decide that you're good enough for yourself.
यह बात हमेशा मेरे दिमाग में आती है कि
जब हम छोटे होते हैं तो हमारी सोच बहुत बड़ी होती है पर जैसे-जैसे हम बड़े होते जाते हैं हमारी सोच छोटी होती जाती हैं, ऐसा क्यो ??
I Observed a lot but still finding suitable answer for this question..
The perspective of some people are so wrong that it make even the right things wrong.
People often misunderstand us but they should understand that every person has their life, which we have the right to live.
Some people I have seen, My God!!
they do not even listen to others. They strongly believe in their narrow mind thoughts. They keep judging you no matter what.
I just wanna tell them yaar you have limited mind, not the whole World have.
So please keep your Limited mind up to yourself. Why disturbing others ? 😒
correct me if you find me wrong, but do not think my innocence is my weakness.
I have find out some issues. I know there are more. I know so many of you can relate with it
it is necessary to understand it very deeply and also try to abolish it as soon as possible.
We all need to understand that If you not replying on every shits of someone that doesn't mean you are weak or afraid of them.
That if you don't know how to speak English you are illiterate.
That If there is a boy and girl walking together, it doesn't means there are having an affair.
That if you're using phone late at night that doesn't means you are talking with a wrong person or doing something wrong.
That if you don't get good marks in one exam or can't qualified that doesn't means you have not potential to achieve something.
And if you have friends of opposite gender that doesn't makes you loose character.
And if you failed in some of your works that doesn't mean you are not trying.
And if you trying to earn from everywhere that doesn't means you are greedy, may be you're needy.
And if any girl wear short dresses it doesn't mean that she wants to expose and if a boy is very friendly that doesn't means he has some bad intention always.
And if someone is an introvert it doesn't
mean they are rude or arrogant and if someone is extrovert that doesn't makes them mannerless.
I know there are more, many more we face in our daily life.
With these kind of filthy thoughts how can we say that we are really growing up?
Technical Things around us are changing and many more things also but our thoughts are not. Why?  If we can solve big mysteries of the world then why it is impossible to deal with your own mind. This is strange na but true, it's a sad reality and if you observe around you, you'll definitely find and then ask this question to yourself, Is we really growing up??
This thing does not apply to all people, there are some good people too but Good people have the problem that they do not raise the voice, they sit silently, And by such mistakes even the small problem takes a bigger form.
Set yourself free. You are the only one that knows what make you happy.
You can't be just called educated just because you have degree. you are truly educated when your thinking is developed.
And if you say you are educated and having this kind of thoughts then you are not educated my friend, Not At All.
Doesn't we have right to live our life according to the way we want?
I mean I am not asking to do crime.I am just asking for my freedom and I deserve it. 
I m not gonna give anyone's the right to decide how I'll live my life neither I m going to decide anyone else life.
Be happy and let others also to be happy. live your life happily and also let other people live their life according to their choice. This is human's Supreme duty.
All I wanna say is if you are growing up then grow up properly and still there is time left to be better and to improve yourself  otherwise at the end you'll get nothing but only regret.
leave all the worthless things in your life and move ahead towards success.

And at the end it is my simple poem dedicated to this topic....

बड़ी आसानी से निकाल लेते हो कमियां मेरी
      क्या कभी खुद के अंदर झांक कर देखा है
क्या कभी देखा है तुम कितने साफ हो
          क्या कभी सोचा है तुम कितने पाक हो
क्यों मेरी हर बात गलत और तुम्हारी सही है
          खता मेरी नहीं यह तो तुम्हारी कमी है
जैसा तुम चाहो वैसे रहूं,
                      मै किसी की गुलाम तो नहीं
अपनी मर्जी से जीती हूं
                   मेरी सांसे तुम्हारा एहसान तो नहीं
अपनी नजरों से परख कर किसी और के साथ
               मेरी तुलना करना ये तुम्हारा काम तो नहीं
मेरी अच्छाई और बुराई मुझसे है
                        इसमें तुम्हारा कोई नुकसान तो नहीं
रख लो अपनी सोच को समेट कर तुम
              क्योंकि मुझे बांध सकना आसान तो नहीं
                                   Jagriti Srivastava