Yesterday night I was talking with my friend and after gossiping for an hour I ask her if she is fine or not, I don't know why I asked this but after listening to my question she went quiet for a few minutes and then started crying.
I was in shock that what suddenly happened to her and then she started telling all the problems of her life to me.
I never thought that she also has problems in her life, I mean she always acts like a free bird.
By seeing that big smile on her face nobody could ever understand that what's the kind of situation she is suffering from.
At that time I believed that it's not only me but there are so many other people who also hide their pain behind their beautiful smile.
but,
Do we ever wonder that why we hide our pain from each other?
We all have some problems in life.
There is nothing shameful in it.
If we do not share our pain with each other then what's the meaning of having relations in life.
Yes, I know it's not right to show your emotion to everyone,
but Hiding your pain is also not a good thing.
When you share your problems with others, you feel relieved. Venting out will make your heart feel lighter and your mind will shed its burden.
A congested heart and troubled mind add to your problems. Let others help you to heal your heart and mind.
You don’t have to solve every problem on your own and sometimes it feels better to have someone by your side, even if it is just for emotional support.
If you just ask you may find that people will often be willing to help you out.
However, we aren't at our best all the time. We're emotional creatures who get swayed by the ups and downs of emotions, and affected by the upheavals of life.
We aren't always able to think sensibly or make sense out of the chaos in our life.
You don't have to be positive all the time. It's perfectly OK to feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared, anxious.
Having feelings doesn't make you a 'negative person'. It makes you human.
And Crying is not bad, in fact it's necessary to cry when you are not feeling good.
Why do we consider crying as a weakness ?
I don't understand this that who made this assumption that boys don't cry and girls cry so much
There are things that are universally human and that should be treated as such. But, our society likes to put things in boxes and categorize them in such a way that we often forget what is basic to being a person. Crying is a big one that people tend to hear and immediately put in a gender box or associate with an adjective…
So we need to understand that either it's a girl or a boy there is nothing wrong in crying.
We have feelings. It's not possible to ignore your feelings everytime.
Don't try to act Emotionless because you can't.
We are human and we have heart that is full of emotion.
Pretending everything is ok when it isn’t doesn’t solve your problems, so if you feel the need and want to cry – go for it. You’ll feel better after it otherwise your feelings will fester inside.
And when it comes to problems, problems are there to teach us something good about life.
God has made us capable enough so that we can face every situation in our life.
I have found that there is almost always a positive side to a problem. Perhaps it alerts us of a great way to improve our business or relationships. Or teaches us how our lives perhaps aren’t as bad as we thought.
Finding this more positive part of the problem reduces its negative emotional impact. You may even start to see the situation as a great opportunity for you.
If life is battlefield, then we are brave soldiers of this battle.
Sooner or later, problems of our life will be solved one day.
In fact Every problems comes with solutions.
We only need to change your perspective to see those problems.
When you are faced with a problem ask yourself:
What is the good thing about this?
What can I learn from this?
What hidden opportunity can I find within this problem?
Our perspective gets distorted and the insights get weakened sometimes.
But know that this is a temporary phase and you'll get over it.
When you've a problem, don't ignore it but deal with it.
Hard times don't create heroes. It is during the hard times the 'Hero' within us is revealed. Bob Riley
My Poem :-
जब मैं कुछ चेहरों को बड़े ध्यान से देखती हूँ
आंखों के आंसू को छुपाती हुई उस मुस्कान को देखती हूँ
मैं तब खुद से सिर्फ एक ही सवाल करती हूँ
हर उस शख्स का फिर मेै ख्याल करती हूं
जो मेरे "कैसे हो?" पूछने पर
"ठीक हूं" कह जाता है
अपनी इस बात के पीछे न जाने वो
अपने कितने गमों को छुपाता है
ना जाने कितनी बातें उसके दिल में दबी होती है
जिसे वो किसी से ना कह पाता है
अपने गमों का बोझ उठा कर
अकेले में वो चुपचाप रोए जाता है
हम सब कुछ ऐसे ही तो है शायद ,
अकेले में रो कर सबके सामने मुस्कुराने का
नाटक हमें आता है
बेफिजूल की हजार बातें कर लेंगे
पर दिल का दर्द बयां हमसे ना हो पाता है
और मैं कहती हूं कि बुरा क्या है इसमें
अगर मन में कुछ भरा है तो साफ कर लो
किसी से माफी मांग लो और किसी को माफ कर लो
जब सुख से घबराते नहीं तो दुख से घबराना कैसा
उसे भी खुलकर स्वीकार कर लो
दो पल की जिंदगी में प्यार पाओ
और मिलकर सभी से प्यार कर लो |
Jagriti Srivastava
