Wednesday, 25 April 2018

Value Of Relations

We are so scared even by the name of being alone. so think what will happen if we have to live our whole life without anyone, seems impossible na, So to solve this problem and to make our life enjoyable God made some beautiful relations. These Relations completes our life and people in our life give us more reason to enjoy every moment of our life.
And it is our responsibility to take care of our every relations.
We all need to value every relation we have in our life.
I've learned that it's not what I have but who I have in life that matters the most.
Making relation is not a difficult task, but keeping it forever is.
And there are only few people who know how to handle it correctly.
In your life there are some blood relations, some relations you made and some made by situations and trust me every relations are important in your life.
Many people comes in our life.
Some stays and some leaves, some comes for short period of time and some for long But each of them teaches us something about life. People are either lesson or a blessing for us.
Give importance to people and relations in your life because once if relations are broken and people are gone, they will never come back again, I repeat never.
You can't just give up on someone because the situation's not ideal. Great relations aren't great because they have no problems. The are great because both people care enough about the other person to find a way to make it work.
Please don't use anyone only for your some selfish benefit. People are made for loved not for used.
Trust is the most important key in every relation.
If you lost money you may earn it again but if you lost trust it's not possible to get it back. It takes a long time to build a trust but it break just in a second.
If someone cheats you don't give them second chance for the same mistake because if they cheat you once they can cheat you again and again.
we learn with the time like in childhood we want so much people around us but As we grow up the circle of our relations decreases in size but increases in value.
Self respect is important but Ego is not.
Ego comes and destroy the relations.
I appreciate this line I read somewhere
अपनी जिंदगी में कुछ रिश्तो को मैंने यूं बचा लिया किसी से माफी मांग ली और किसी को माफ कर दिया
Remember If someone believe on you blindly, please Don't prove them blind.
It is blessing to have people who can be with you not only in your ups but also when you are in down.
what I feel is if you don't trouble anyone god will never do bad with you.
Surround yourself with the kind of people who spread positivity and happiness not who creates negative environment.
True relationship is where you can talk freely with each other,Where you can share everything openly, where others happiness become reason for you to be happy.
We all share a strong bonding with our parents, family and friends and it's very important to tell them every time that how important they are in your life and make them feel special. You know life is unpredictable. Be thankful for each and every moment you lived with your loved ones.
It is also true that no one gonna live with us for all time. People leave us with memories and the sad thing is that we can't do anything about it but we have to make sure that how much time we spend with that people, we have to make it memorable for lifetime. Many time it happens in life when we feel something for someone but that person doesn't feel the same for you, its ok you don't need to force someone to feel the same you feel for them. let them go, if that thing is your it definitely comes to you.
So many people are there who are in love but not together and there are so many people who are together but not in love you can't beat the destiny. All you can do is accept the reality and move on And one concept that I never understand that how can people forget their parents and disrespect them when they got new people in their life??
we are nothing without our parents. They are our everything.parents are blessings love them always. Relationship between your brother and sister something you can't find anywhere else. it's pure.
we need a good life partner in our life that's also very true and your friends are Cherry on the cake and many more relations we have. we can't say we are complete without all these people. we must need them in our life.
Every relations go through misunderstandings and fights but it does not break the relation it make the relations even more stronger because your real Well wishes never wish anything bad for you. maybe they annoy you very much but believe me they can fight with whole world just to see the a smile on your face.
"जीवन में रिश्ते उस बगिया के फूल की तरह हैं जिन्हें हमे अपने प्यार के पानी से सींचना पड़ता है वरना रिश्तो के यह फूल मुरझा जाते हैं और हमारी बगिया सुनी और उदास हो जाती है"
Sometimes an Unexpected connections are made and that person which is so much far away from you can give you more peace and happiness than the person sitting just next to you.
it's all about understanding you know and about respecting each others, giving space to each other and about love, care, support,equality and many more things.
Nowadays there is a time of virtual world.
because of this you come to know so many people of different states from different culture. You have so many things to learn from them.
So many people don't like internet friendship, even my family too don't support it. They think it's not safe and yaa it's true but luckily I met some very amazing people here on internet and some of them become my close friends for life. It's a different kind of experience you know but that doesn't mean you trust blindly to anyone.
And something very strange now a days that fast replies, Blue ticks and status are  some of the criteria use to judge any relationship.
I know it's important to communicate and if you are a priority to someone then they definitely give you their time, no matter how much busy they are but it's not good to judge your relation according to these criteria and your relations are much more stronger than anything else.  understanding between two people are more important in any relations.
Now Relationship becomes harder because conversation become texting, arguments become phone calls and feelings becomes status update.
Don't try to find out perfection in everyone, accept the imperfect one.
I think two imperfect people make a perfect relation.
If I talk about myself, I am very insecure about my place in anyone's life, like I feel, Is I am also that much important for them like they are for me..
I am always curious to know if people think of me or I am forgotten.
I wonder how many stories I've been part of their.
I wonder how many times a day I pass through someone's head.
I attached with people very easily.
Once I was asked what will I do if my people leave me and I replied people who are mine will never leave me and people who leave me was never mine.
And here I take this opportunity to say thanks to each and everyone who are in my life :)
Value yourself enough to choose to be with someone who wants you as much as you want them.
"बेहिसाब रिश्तो का शौक मत रखो जीवन में रिश्ते उतने ही बनाओ जितने निभाने की औकात रखते हो"

And in last special part of my blog....
                 My poem
इन रिश्तो के बिना सब अधूरे होते हैं
कुछ खूबसूरत लोगों के साथ ही तो हम पूरे होते हैं
जीवन में जो भर देते हैं खुशियां हमारी
 कितने सारे बंधन हमारे दिल से जुड़े होते हैं
जिन के संग हम हंसते मुस्कुराते हैं
गीत खुशी के गाते और गमो मे आंसू बहाते हैं
ऐसे कुछ अनमोल लोग होते हैं जो हजारों में हमारे अपने कहलाते हैं
जिनके पास होने पर दुख का एहसास नहीं होता
जिनके दूर होने पर खुशी का आगाज नहीं होता
रिश्ते मिलते हैं हम सभी को किस्मत से
इन रिश्तो के अलावा हमें और किसी पर विश्वास नहीं होता |
                            Jagriti Srivastava

Monday, 9 April 2018

Grow up

Please Grow up !!
Well, Don't be confused I'm not going to give you any kind of health advise which helps you to grow Because that's not my work and also I am not interested in it.
I'm here just to tell you that Grow Up as a person. Be mature enough to see the difference between right and wrong.
Please come out of from your conservative thoughts. It's not necessary that what You think every time, is right.
You can't completely understand the situation of any person until it happens with you.
Think about yourself before judging someone.
Don't judge anyone according to your opinion and also don't let anyone else judge you.
How can we spoke bad things for people when we don't have guts to bear all that bitter words to ourself.
The problem with us is that we don't want to come out of from our blind faith.
We just don't want to see the other side of the coin.
We humans, Yes, we are social creature. sometimes unwillingly we are bind to follow some social customs. Its not bad but when it create wrong impact on us then it's totally worst.Social rules have been made to improve us not to spoil us.
Nobody has the right to take your freedom from You.
Everyone in the society has the right to live equally.
We all can keep cleaning around us. It is in our hands but How you can clean the garbage of someone's mind?
The filthy thinking of people has spoiled the society.
Respect everyone's feeling. It may means nothing to you but for them it means so much.
You know the real problem is that no one wants to change themselves, Everyone is trying to change others.
Mahatma Gandhi said that Be the change you wish to see in the world.
we should have to live our life according to our own opinion, not to others.
if there is fault in anyone's thinking then why we have to face problems because of them?
come out from the race to prove yourself right and others wrong.
Support each other and this the way we really can grow up.
We all are part of this society and if we do not support each other then who will support us.
The most important day in your life is the day when you decide that you're good enough for yourself.
यह बात हमेशा मेरे दिमाग में आती है कि
जब हम छोटे होते हैं तो हमारी सोच बहुत बड़ी होती है पर जैसे-जैसे हम बड़े होते जाते हैं हमारी सोच छोटी होती जाती हैं, ऐसा क्यो ??
I Observed a lot but still finding suitable answer for this question..
The perspective of some people are so wrong that it make even the right things wrong.
People often misunderstand us but they should understand that every person has their life, which we have the right to live.
Some people I have seen, My God!!
they do not even listen to others. They strongly believe in their narrow mind thoughts. They keep judging you no matter what.
I just wanna tell them yaar you have limited mind, not the whole World have.
So please keep your Limited mind up to yourself. Why disturbing others ? 😒
correct me if you find me wrong, but do not think my innocence is my weakness.
I have find out some issues. I know there are more. I know so many of you can relate with it
it is necessary to understand it very deeply and also try to abolish it as soon as possible.
We all need to understand that If you not replying on every shits of someone that doesn't mean you are weak or afraid of them.
That if you don't know how to speak English you are illiterate.
That If there is a boy and girl walking together, it doesn't means there are having an affair.
That if you're using phone late at night that doesn't means you are talking with a wrong person or doing something wrong.
That if you don't get good marks in one exam or can't qualified that doesn't means you have not potential to achieve something.
And if you have friends of opposite gender that doesn't makes you loose character.
And if you failed in some of your works that doesn't mean you are not trying.
And if you trying to earn from everywhere that doesn't means you are greedy, may be you're needy.
And if any girl wear short dresses it doesn't mean that she wants to expose and if a boy is very friendly that doesn't means he has some bad intention always.
And if someone is an introvert it doesn't
mean they are rude or arrogant and if someone is extrovert that doesn't makes them mannerless.
I know there are more, many more we face in our daily life.
With these kind of filthy thoughts how can we say that we are really growing up?
Technical Things around us are changing and many more things also but our thoughts are not. Why?  If we can solve big mysteries of the world then why it is impossible to deal with your own mind. This is strange na but true, it's a sad reality and if you observe around you, you'll definitely find and then ask this question to yourself, Is we really growing up??
This thing does not apply to all people, there are some good people too but Good people have the problem that they do not raise the voice, they sit silently, And by such mistakes even the small problem takes a bigger form.
Set yourself free. You are the only one that knows what make you happy.
You can't be just called educated just because you have degree. you are truly educated when your thinking is developed.
And if you say you are educated and having this kind of thoughts then you are not educated my friend, Not At All.
Doesn't we have right to live our life according to the way we want?
I mean I am not asking to do crime.I am just asking for my freedom and I deserve it. 
I m not gonna give anyone's the right to decide how I'll live my life neither I m going to decide anyone else life.
Be happy and let others also to be happy. live your life happily and also let other people live their life according to their choice. This is human's Supreme duty.
All I wanna say is if you are growing up then grow up properly and still there is time left to be better and to improve yourself  otherwise at the end you'll get nothing but only regret.
leave all the worthless things in your life and move ahead towards success.

And at the end it is my simple poem dedicated to this topic....

बड़ी आसानी से निकाल लेते हो कमियां मेरी
      क्या कभी खुद के अंदर झांक कर देखा है
क्या कभी देखा है तुम कितने साफ हो
          क्या कभी सोचा है तुम कितने पाक हो
क्यों मेरी हर बात गलत और तुम्हारी सही है
          खता मेरी नहीं यह तो तुम्हारी कमी है
जैसा तुम चाहो वैसे रहूं,
                      मै किसी की गुलाम तो नहीं
अपनी मर्जी से जीती हूं
                   मेरी सांसे तुम्हारा एहसान तो नहीं
अपनी नजरों से परख कर किसी और के साथ
               मेरी तुलना करना ये तुम्हारा काम तो नहीं
मेरी अच्छाई और बुराई मुझसे है
                        इसमें तुम्हारा कोई नुकसान तो नहीं
रख लो अपनी सोच को समेट कर तुम
              क्योंकि मुझे बांध सकना आसान तो नहीं
                                   Jagriti Srivastava

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